Posts Tagged ‘release’

Releasing Expectations

 

       Life presents us with opportunities for growth; some painful and some exciting, but these lessons are always challenging our core values and beliefs.  With every new opportunity, we test ourselves and all that we currently know by choosing to either move forward toward the unknown or play it safe.  Whenever we start something new, we’re pushing past our comfort zone and thus pushing past our expectations. While there is familiarity with the known, there is little growth so we make up expectations and fantasize about what this new experience will be like. It’s almost like preparing for a play by studying our lines, except we are the writer, actor, and director. We give emotion, dialogue, and set the scene for our new adventure, environment or relationship, and then get upset when things don’t turn out the way we planned (expected).

Having expectations is part of being human, however, it doesn’t have to take center stage. We’ve all heard the saying “expectations are planned resentments”. This means that by creating them, or buying into them, we are setting ourselves up for failure, disappointment, and pain. Instead, take life as it comes and learn to “roll with it”. Plan, if you must, but don’t fall into the trap of “expecting” anything of a person, place, or thing (ex: event).  The key to releasing expectations is acceptance.

Accept what you cannot change. And that is pretty much everything outside of yourself. Recognize your Spiritual power within and harness control (awareness) over your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and actions. Practice an attitude of gratitude. As Dr. Bernie Siegel says in his book 101 Exercises for the Soul, “you can’t be troubled and grateful at the same time”.  Through acceptance and gratitude, peace and joy exist.

I am so grateful to have learned this lesson in my life and for the opportunity to practice is regularly.     Join me in releasing expectations forever! There is freedom in not expecting and instead simply allowing experiences to unfold; naturally.  Try it today and see for yourself.

 

The Power of Intention

What we put our attention on, is usually what we manifest, but isn’t always what we want. Intention rather, is a deeply conscious choice to manifest a particular goal without any attachment to how it comes about. Intentions are more than mere goal setting, as they have grace, ease, and flexibility within them. Goals tend to be more fixed with particular steps to achieve the desired outcome. Intentions allow Spirit to work its magic within us or in the world in order to manifest.

The power of intention comes from our willingness to surrender to Spirit and get out of the way. Ever tried to fix something with the same mindset that created it? The result is lots of frustration and disaster! Setting an intention eliminates this frustration by admitting we don’t know how and allowing a Power greater than ourselves, which does know how, to show us the way.

I have seen this process work many times in my life and in the lives of those I know and love with remarkable results. Outcomes manifest far more magnificent than planned or even dreamed of; effortlessly. Just last week I set the intention to be more mindful with time and within days, I was more productive and arriving at places earlier than usual. This carried over to a class I am teaching and just in a matter of three weeks I have seen dramatic results. All without changing a single thing, except creating a space for God to work in my life.  Additionally, I have set health intentions to get more active and eat better. Low and behold, I have actually gone to the gym and worked out, plus eaten several salads that I made myself at home. All without bullying or berating myself; and merely making an intention, then stepping my ego (control) aside.

I am so grateful for the power of intention in my life today and rest in the awareness that I don’t have to know “how”; I can just allow Life to unfold gracefully and get out of my own way.

Imagine what you can accomplish using the power of intention in your life? Try it and see the difference for yourself.