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Releasing Expectations

 

       Life presents us with opportunities for growth; some painful and some exciting, but these lessons are always challenging our core values and beliefs.  With every new opportunity, we test ourselves and all that we currently know by choosing to either move forward toward the unknown or play it safe.  Whenever we start something new, we’re pushing past our comfort zone and thus pushing past our expectations. While there is familiarity with the known, there is little growth so we make up expectations and fantasize about what this new experience will be like. It’s almost like preparing for a play by studying our lines, except we are the writer, actor, and director. We give emotion, dialogue, and set the scene for our new adventure, environment or relationship, and then get upset when things don’t turn out the way we planned (expected).

Having expectations is part of being human, however, it doesn’t have to take center stage. We’ve all heard the saying “expectations are planned resentments”. This means that by creating them, or buying into them, we are setting ourselves up for failure, disappointment, and pain. Instead, take life as it comes and learn to “roll with it”. Plan, if you must, but don’t fall into the trap of “expecting” anything of a person, place, or thing (ex: event).  The key to releasing expectations is acceptance.

Accept what you cannot change. And that is pretty much everything outside of yourself. Recognize your Spiritual power within and harness control (awareness) over your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and actions. Practice an attitude of gratitude. As Dr. Bernie Siegel says in his book 101 Exercises for the Soul, “you can’t be troubled and grateful at the same time”.  Through acceptance and gratitude, peace and joy exist.

I am so grateful to have learned this lesson in my life and for the opportunity to practice is regularly.     Join me in releasing expectations forever! There is freedom in not expecting and instead simply allowing experiences to unfold; naturally.  Try it today and see for yourself.

 

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Take Time Out

I am so thankful and grateful for time out’s. Whether it’s a minute, five, ten, or all day, taking time out from the day-to-day routine is essential for optimal mental health. Doing this before the pressures of life get too much is far better than waiting for things to back up or worse, explode! Recently, I enjoyed a wonderful conference that explored integrating our shadow side (fears, resentments, frustrations, or other limiting beliefs) in order live from greater conscious awareness. It was a fabulous day away from the family, pets, and housework where I could dress up and feel like a real adult. Ahhhh. We all need time outs like these and I realized that it had been far too long for me.

The beautiful part about time outs is that afterwards, you feel completely rejuvenated and inspired with greater motivation as well as a fresh perspective. It’s like going away on a vacation, when you come home everything looks so much better.

Now a little more info on these time out’s and what they look like. Taking deep, cleansing, breathes for a minute or two can suffice in a pinch when you’re feeling stressed out and need to calm down to collect yourself. Practicing some yoga or Tai Chi postures for 15 minutes of more can be a great time out to re-focus and go within. Exercising at the gym or going for a brisk walk /run/ bike ride, can be another form of time out that is just for you, allowing for greater energy, improved physical health, and mental clarity. There are times, however, when one needs a longer time out than those described above. When this happens, enroll in a seminar or workshop for the day or go on a private retreat for the weekend to refuel and pamper yourself. The time alone will not only benefit you, but your family, job, and outlook on life as well.

Just like toddlers, we all need to take time out from our day to nap, rest, and play; yet as we grow up and the pressures of life build, we need greater time outs to reflect and bask in the silence. Media, technology, financial obligations, and increased job/personal demands have created a pace to life that is difficult for any human being to sustain. Thus, taking time out from this pace to slow down and relax is key to balance the inner with the outer and maintain feelings of emotional satisfaction with the lives we lead and the direction they are taking.

I, for one, am grateful for taking these time-outs in order to examine and re-align my life with Divine Purpose. Try it for yourself today and see how much better you feel afterwards. Mix up the varying kinds of time-outs described above and notice your productivity and outlook skyrocket.