Posts Tagged ‘adventure’

Releasing Expectations


       Life presents us with opportunities for growth; some painful and some exciting, but these lessons are always challenging our core values and beliefs.  With every new opportunity, we test ourselves and all that we currently know by choosing to either move forward toward the unknown or play it safe.  Whenever we start something new, we’re pushing past our comfort zone and thus pushing past our expectations. While there is familiarity with the known, there is little growth so we make up expectations and fantasize about what this new experience will be like. It’s almost like preparing for a play by studying our lines, except we are the writer, actor, and director. We give emotion, dialogue, and set the scene for our new adventure, environment or relationship, and then get upset when things don’t turn out the way we planned (expected).

Having expectations is part of being human, however, it doesn’t have to take center stage. We’ve all heard the saying “expectations are planned resentments”. This means that by creating them, or buying into them, we are setting ourselves up for failure, disappointment, and pain. Instead, take life as it comes and learn to “roll with it”. Plan, if you must, but don’t fall into the trap of “expecting” anything of a person, place, or thing (ex: event).  The key to releasing expectations is acceptance.

Accept what you cannot change. And that is pretty much everything outside of yourself. Recognize your Spiritual power within and harness control (awareness) over your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and actions. Practice an attitude of gratitude. As Dr. Bernie Siegel says in his book 101 Exercises for the Soul, “you can’t be troubled and grateful at the same time”.  Through acceptance and gratitude, peace and joy exist.

I am so grateful to have learned this lesson in my life and for the opportunity to practice is regularly.     Join me in releasing expectations forever! There is freedom in not expecting and instead simply allowing experiences to unfold; naturally.  Try it today and see for yourself.


The Gifts of December

Usually during this time of year we lose sight of the true meaning of the season which is celebrating our love for one another; family and friends as well as our fellow mankind. I am so grateful for the colder weather, all the decorations, and of course the food, fun, & fellowship with loved ones not seen on a regular basis. December is a time for closer connection and appreciation for the ones we work with as well as the ones who serve us in the community by delivering our mail or wait on us in various establishments. It is a great time of heartfelt communication, lasting eye contact, warm embraces, great adventure, joyous gatherings, and decadent food. What gifts do December have to offer you? These gifts are all abound and only require your acknowledgement, receipt, of them to unwrap their magic. Thank you God for bringing us all this season of hope. Now what are you going to do with it?


Sometimes things aren’t the way we expect them to be. This picture, aka my apple picking adventure, case in point. I remembered this favorite childhood activity in New York/Vermont was very different from what we witnessed in Willcox, Arizona. I remember climbing the tree’s, being able to drive between the rows of trees and picking a car full for less than $20 versus the 99cents per lb we paid here.

I had a picture of what this adventure would look like based upon memories from the past and when I experienced it, the results were nothing like the picture. How many times  has this happened to you?

They say, “expectations are planned resentments”. Well, they’re right…sort of. Although I was disappointed at the orchards, there were other experiences within our day trip adventure that turned out to be quite fun! For instance walking through a corn maze.

(Turn your head to the right for left pix)   Start!

I entered into a new experience with no expectations except for adventure and fun and that was exactly what my husband and I got. We took the intermediate route as we wanted some challenge but to still make it out alive. They gave us a trivia sheet and postcard of the maze that proved to be completely useless as we soon couldn’t tell where we were within the maze. The corn was double our height and absorbed sound better than walls. The maze was supposed to take 30 minutes, we were in there about 45 and made ample wrong turns, but it was incredibly fun! Originally I thought we’d do the more challenging one after, but this route proved to be quite challenging enough for the two of us! To make matters worse we forgot to bring water with us and became very disoriented and dehydrated.  Thank God, after a snow cone each and rest, we were no worse for the ware.

Here’s my husband’s after picture. Dragging tail w/ our camcorder strapped to his back.  We had survived the corn maze and lived to tell our tale.  🙂

The point is, we had the most fun when our expectations weren’t as specific. Sure I “expected” it would be fun but I didn’t know any of the details to expect so that freed our minds for the experience to  just unfold. The result was we had a more enjoyable time and weren’t disappointed.

So what can you take away from all this? Suspend the details of your expectations long enough for them to unfold naturally. You will probably have a better time and make new memories that are just as satisfying!